Feeling Frockin’ Awesome

Frocktober helps me Act, Belong, Commit

From the 8th to the 15th of October is Mental Health week in WA and the theme is Act, Belong, Commit. Mental health is always worth talking about, and the relationship between that and fashion/dressing up for me ( particulaly in Frocktober ) is an interesting one.

Anxiety (in varying degrees) is a by-product of loving fashion and being a prolific social media user.  It can manifest in the form of the fear of missing out (FOMO), frivolity and even feelings of inadequacy.

To combat or allay anxiety you need to ACT; ritualistically putting on a dress every day and taking a photo, saving your hashtags in a memo on your phone to you don’t forget, snapping a backlog of photos, asking friends and colleagues to take photos.

I was stressing about Frocktober – then this photo happened;

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The action of standing in the wind and embracing the wild weather relaxed me!

As I touched on in my last entry “Nearly Ovar(y) it?”  – the act of inclusion, Em asking me to team up together was such a small and effective one. It re-engaged me when I didn’t feel motivated. Don’t under estimate the power of reaching out in any way; the feeling of BELONGing can spurn wonderful things!

The act of inclusion motivated us to reach out to other Perth creatives, and set up some pretty stellar events;

  1. The Frocktober Fashionable Afternoon Tea – October 22nd, Jonté Designs, 12pm – 3pm, $15 (ticketed)
  2.  Shop and Sip for Frocktober – October 13th and 27th, Mercado32, 5.30pm-7.30pm, free!

Speaking of events, collaborations and fundraising – COMMITment(!)
As a Face of Frocktober, being accountable to other people, time management, not to mention having to field the questions of friends, colleagues and family about what your fundraising. Down to organising brownies for an office bake sale!

Frocktober is giving me a new relationship with fashion. I am now okay with people seeing me as distinct, based purely on the way I dress. My talent for playing dress-ups, via Frocktober can draw attention to women’s health, specifically Ovarian Cancer.

Ovaries are important, the cells they produce make up about 50% of a human being. Procreation and longevity are the end game, but I am passionate about ensuring the organs (which I have) can be looked after in a practical and affordable way. Ovaries are pretty important!

I have a distinct feeling my Frocktober experiences are laying some pretty exciting groundwork for my next ‘chapter’ –  should be a laugh!

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Photo by @natventuring Photography
Frock from @Mercado32 Clothing Exchange

To make a tax-refundable donation: https://frocktober2016.everydayhero.com/au/two-fine-femmes

For all event announcements and some fabulous frocks, follow my Instagram; @thetangibleblog

To become a 2016 Frockette/Frocker Fundraiser, sign up here

To donate or find out more about Frocktober, or see Megan Hess’ beautiful campaign art – go here!

If you have unwanted, unworn, unloved frocks, I will collecting them throughout the month of October, to donate on!

 

Nearly Ovar(y) it? Four fabulous frocking years

I almost didn’t do Frocktober in 2016; it was only because Emma and I traded comments on an Instagram post (in mid-July), asking me if I was doing Frocktober, I seriously considered it..

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I am honestly so grateful for the motivation from Emma. I was then approached by the OCRF to engage with Frocktober again in 2016, so evidently the Universe had it on my ‘to-do’ list!

 

it’s (not) about you

Truth is, fundraising (speaking broadly) is not just something you ‘do’; it is very much a mental and physical process.
You do need some (mental) support from people like your friends and family to do so, as I have fortunately done in the last (now) 4 years. Regardless of #girlgangs, where I have worked, my old Highschool – I have been supported in my Frocktober ventures; with an absolutely full heart, I do not take this for granted.

 

The Paradox

To fundraise as an individual:

  • It is your decision
  • It is purely self-motivated (as in, you motivate yourself to do so)

Yet;

  • It is not about you, everything is about the cause you are fundraising for
  • You tread the fine line of self-promotion/promoting awareness
  • You don’t always get patted on the back

Fundraising for Frocktober prises at  the weathered exterior of my introversion – it takes a bold confidence to stand up (in a fashionable frock, of course) and make your vision of fundraising happen. I can do this because it is not about me, really; it’s about women’s health and character building.

Frocktober is the attrition of the area between my comfort zone and my potential

I have written each year about how I have learned to manage expectations and goals through Frocktober – and even though I am (something of) a ‘Veteran’ now, 2016 is going to be no different.

 

Why do it?

For Love

Of a cause, of yourself, of family

My Grandmother and I are symbols of the greater whole of women’s health promotion. I love my fashion, but I am not a ‘clothes-horse’ – I am one of the faces of and a voice of Frocktober, my Grandmother is the survivor. I don’t control how people view or react to me, but I can be the voice they react to when I talk about Frocktober and Women’s Gynaecological Health.

I am still slightly uncomfortable making phone calls to people I have never met, and I feel silly for feeling surprised at the widespread positive reception I have had each year. Perth people and business owners react so wonderfully to the authenticity I didn’t fully realise I had. And this year, it  happily becomes “we” with Em and Malinda!

Have a ‘Love Project’

Immerse yourself in something;

Fragility is okay – you don’t have to be a raging extrovert to be passionate about something. It takes guts to challenge yourself, and no two experiences are the same. Now that we are in the swing of Frocktober, I am able to remember and embody the joy it brings me; what a privilege to work with and support Em, Malinda, Raych, Jonté and Katey.

Not everything about Cancer is doom and gloom

Through fundraising, I have discovered joys are rarely delivered – they are found;
might as well be well-dressed for the journey!

Frock on!

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Photo by @natventuring Photography
Frock from @Mercado32 Clothing Exchange

To make a tax-refundable donation: https://frocktober2016.everydayhero.com/au/two-fine-femmes

For all event announcements and some fabulous frocks, follow my Instagram; @thetangibleblog

To become a 2016 Frockette/Frocker Fundraiser, sign up here

To donate or find out more about Frocktober, or see Megan Hess’ beautiful campaign art – go here!

If you have unwanted, unworn, unloved frocks, I will collecting them throughout the month of October, to donate on!

Cover Image artwork an original creation, by me – not to be used without permission.

Hello Frocktober!

Hello Frocktober!

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Emma and I have officially kicked off our Fundraising as ‘Two Fine Femmes Frocktober‘ today!

We have set a goal of $3,000 – but if we get  $5,000 (or more) I will run around Lake Monger in a frock of Emma’s choosing

Get EXCITED, PErth – we’re bringing you events!

  • Thursday October 13th
  • Saturday October 22nd
  • Thursday October 27th

Every single year, Frocktober gets bigger and more inspiring. I am bursting with excitement to bring  you some collaborations with our local West Australian creatives – Fashion, Retailers, Stylists, Foodies, Lifestyle and Health.
You name it – Em, Malinda and I found it!

For everything you need to know:

For all event announcements and some fabulous frocks, follow my Instagram; @thetangibleblog

To become a 2016 Frockette/Frocker Fundraiser, sign up here

To donate or find out more about Frocktober, or see Megan Hess’ beautiful campaign art – go here!

If you have unwanted, unworn, unloved frocks, I will collecting them throughout the month of October, to donate on!

See you again soon, for my first weekly frock report!

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Photo by @natventuring Photography
Frock from @Mercado32 Clothing Exchange

3 ways to waste your youth and build your value

Youth  is  wasted on the young, but no experience is ever irrelevant to the clever millennial. Take that George Bernard Shaw

I see so many 20-somethings (like myself) languishing with a lack of career direction- feeling they “should be” on a more certain path doing one thing or another.

Knowing three words can help you map your next move, regardless of your age or stage in your career:

  1. Skills
  2. Interests
  3. Qualifications (or Achievements)

Your Skills are what you are known to do well, backed by experience.
Your Interests  are what you choose to enjoy, they can be more niche like hobbies.
Your Qualifications (or Achievements) are a representation of what you want to do.

Like a Venn Diagram, any combination of these three things can overlap to help add value, and give you direction.

For me personally, I am in a seemingly unique, but not uncommon, position; I have no formal qualifications relevant to my current role. My interests in the social media and Government  come together with my pre-existing skill set from numerous internships and retail jobs. Because I am mentally stimulated by my interests, I am engaged to learn new skills.
Is this the secret to LOVING your job like I do? Who knows!

Not all formal qualifications have the same practical (read: practicum) element – E.g. Nursing vs Engineering vs Public Relations. There is no ‘lesser’ profession in any industry, based on how much “relevant experience” you have.

In my opinion, “relevant experience” is just a pair of words strung together which induces fear into the heart of Graduates – all experience is relevant, don’t believe the oxymoron!

Any qualification combined with a pre-existing skill set are the bricks and mortar of of the road anyone can journey on to discover specific or new interests.

Conversely, your skills and interests can compel some people to study again, to acquire new qualifications.

All of these combinations add value, nothing is irrelevant to the bigger picture. The end result is an excellent situational knowledge. Realising that every ‘irrelevant’ experience – study, previous work and your interests – you have had has been quietly adding to your value is a game changer.

 

Waste your youth – it’s all (chaotic) good!

Also published on LinkedIn Pulse.

Busy Sickness: There is a difference

No better time than the end of the week to reflect between being busy and productive; and knowing the difference.

My mantra has been “better busy than bored” for many years now, and I now digress from it. To be busy simply means “to be occupied”, or “to have a great deal to do”, it does not equate to being productive, or a feeling of fulfilment.
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Talk Nerdy to Me: Be like Bamboo in your next Interview

Job Interviews, Public Speaking and Taxes are are three  (semi-masochistic but) necessary experiences. I enjoy professional Job interviews; they have been one of the best character building experiences for me so far.

All are fear-inducing, thrilling and potentially rewarding;
but can you balance your sense of self and your professional appeal in a job interview?

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