Feeling Frockin’ Awesome

Frocktober helps me Act, Belong, Commit

From the 8th to the 15th of October is Mental Health week in WA and the theme is Act, Belong, Commit. Mental health is always worth talking about, and the relationship between that and fashion/dressing up for me ( particulaly in Frocktober ) is an interesting one.

Anxiety (in varying degrees) is a by-product of loving fashion and being a prolific social media user.  It can manifest in the form of the fear of missing out (FOMO), frivolity and even feelings of inadequacy.

To combat or allay anxiety you need to ACT; ritualistically putting on a dress every day and taking a photo, saving your hashtags in a memo on your phone to you don’t forget, snapping a backlog of photos, asking friends and colleagues to take photos.

I was stressing about Frocktober – then this photo happened;

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The action of standing in the wind and embracing the wild weather relaxed me!

As I touched on in my last entry “Nearly Ovar(y) it?”  – the act of inclusion, Em asking me to team up together was such a small and effective one. It re-engaged me when I didn’t feel motivated. Don’t under estimate the power of reaching out in any way; the feeling of BELONGing can spurn wonderful things!

The act of inclusion motivated us to reach out to other Perth creatives, and set up some pretty stellar events;

  1. The Frocktober Fashionable Afternoon Tea – October 22nd, Jonté Designs, 12pm – 3pm, $15 (ticketed)
  2.  Shop and Sip for Frocktober – October 13th and 27th, Mercado32, 5.30pm-7.30pm, free!

Speaking of events, collaborations and fundraising – COMMITment(!)
As a Face of Frocktober, being accountable to other people, time management, not to mention having to field the questions of friends, colleagues and family about what your fundraising. Down to organising brownies for an office bake sale!

Frocktober is giving me a new relationship with fashion. I am now okay with people seeing me as distinct, based purely on the way I dress. My talent for playing dress-ups, via Frocktober can draw attention to women’s health, specifically Ovarian Cancer.

Ovaries are important, the cells they produce make up about 50% of a human being. Procreation and longevity are the end game, but I am passionate about ensuring the organs (which I have) can be looked after in a practical and affordable way. Ovaries are pretty important!

I have a distinct feeling my Frocktober experiences are laying some pretty exciting groundwork for my next ‘chapter’ –  should be a laugh!

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Photo by @natventuring Photography
Frock from @Mercado32 Clothing Exchange

To make a tax-refundable donation: https://frocktober2016.everydayhero.com/au/two-fine-femmes

For all event announcements and some fabulous frocks, follow my Instagram; @thetangibleblog

To become a 2016 Frockette/Frocker Fundraiser, sign up here

To donate or find out more about Frocktober, or see Megan Hess’ beautiful campaign art – go here!

If you have unwanted, unworn, unloved frocks, I will collecting them throughout the month of October, to donate on!

 

Nearly Ovar(y) it? Four fabulous frocking years

I almost didn’t do Frocktober in 2016; it was only because Emma and I traded comments on an Instagram post (in mid-July), asking me if I was doing Frocktober, I seriously considered it..

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I am honestly so grateful for the motivation from Emma. I was then approached by the OCRF to engage with Frocktober again in 2016, so evidently the Universe had it on my ‘to-do’ list!

 

it’s (not) about you

Truth is, fundraising (speaking broadly) is not just something you ‘do’; it is very much a mental and physical process.
You do need some (mental) support from people like your friends and family to do so, as I have fortunately done in the last (now) 4 years. Regardless of #girlgangs, where I have worked, my old Highschool – I have been supported in my Frocktober ventures; with an absolutely full heart, I do not take this for granted.

 

The Paradox

To fundraise as an individual:

  • It is your decision
  • It is purely self-motivated (as in, you motivate yourself to do so)

Yet;

  • It is not about you, everything is about the cause you are fundraising for
  • You tread the fine line of self-promotion/promoting awareness
  • You don’t always get patted on the back

Fundraising for Frocktober prises at  the weathered exterior of my introversion – it takes a bold confidence to stand up (in a fashionable frock, of course) and make your vision of fundraising happen. I can do this because it is not about me, really; it’s about women’s health and character building.

Frocktober is the attrition of the area between my comfort zone and my potential

I have written each year about how I have learned to manage expectations and goals through Frocktober – and even though I am (something of) a ‘Veteran’ now, 2016 is going to be no different.

 

Why do it?

For Love

Of a cause, of yourself, of family

My Grandmother and I are symbols of the greater whole of women’s health promotion. I love my fashion, but I am not a ‘clothes-horse’ – I am one of the faces of and a voice of Frocktober, my Grandmother is the survivor. I don’t control how people view or react to me, but I can be the voice they react to when I talk about Frocktober and Women’s Gynaecological Health.

I am still slightly uncomfortable making phone calls to people I have never met, and I feel silly for feeling surprised at the widespread positive reception I have had each year. Perth people and business owners react so wonderfully to the authenticity I didn’t fully realise I had. And this year, it  happily becomes “we” with Em and Malinda!

Have a ‘Love Project’

Immerse yourself in something;

Fragility is okay – you don’t have to be a raging extrovert to be passionate about something. It takes guts to challenge yourself, and no two experiences are the same. Now that we are in the swing of Frocktober, I am able to remember and embody the joy it brings me; what a privilege to work with and support Em, Malinda, Raych, Jonté and Katey.

Not everything about Cancer is doom and gloom

Through fundraising, I have discovered joys are rarely delivered – they are found;
might as well be well-dressed for the journey!

Frock on!

A

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Photo by @natventuring Photography
Frock from @Mercado32 Clothing Exchange

To make a tax-refundable donation: https://frocktober2016.everydayhero.com/au/two-fine-femmes

For all event announcements and some fabulous frocks, follow my Instagram; @thetangibleblog

To become a 2016 Frockette/Frocker Fundraiser, sign up here

To donate or find out more about Frocktober, or see Megan Hess’ beautiful campaign art – go here!

If you have unwanted, unworn, unloved frocks, I will collecting them throughout the month of October, to donate on!

Cover Image artwork an original creation, by me – not to be used without permission.

Frocktober 2015: I didn’t always rock a frock

My relationship with dresses has been an interesting one in my 23 years on earth so far….

Dresses weren’t my first choice of clothing when I was growing up. early-2000s-popPlaying dress ups as a young girl resulted in a love of dressing up (wearing lip gloss to the dinner table regularly, according to Mum!). Dresses and skirts felt like ‘Uniform’, a sentiment from my school days – I preferred pants, thanks to the late 1990s  and early 2000s trackpants, low cut and wide leg jeans trends.

I have come to love dresses, in all their diverse, trendy complexity. But it be a challenge to not be able to fall back on my well-worn default of jeans with converse or heels.

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